"Vander Mey says, "So hesed love is I'm going to love you but also hold you accountable. But I am committed to you even when you fail. Even when you miss the mark, I'm still with you. Hesed love is, 'I'm going to love you and I'm going to be committed to you, which is the setting of my will to love you, even when you're unlovable.' That's hesed love. It's regardless of the person's response."